Continuing along the same theme as my Crab Theory post. I'll be sharing my feelings on an old phenomenon that happens in the Deaf community plus one recent one that has popped up.
What is Deaf Identity?
I know the Deaf Identity involves more than just the three I showed, but it is the simple explanation. So, let's take a quick look:
American Sign Language is our shared language in the United States and in some parts of the world.
It is NOT "English on the hands" or "gesturing" as the misconception goes.
It is its own valid language with grammar, syntax and all the linguistic rules. Deaf people use ASL not just to communicate but also to tell stories, poetry, jokes, visual vernacular, and SO much more. In short, we cherish our ASL.
Culture is "defined as patterns, traits, products, attitudes, and intellectual / artistic activity associated with a population".
Some Deaf Culture aspects are:
Deaf pride is calling ourselves Deaf - Capital D, as opposed to deaf - Little D.
We do not see ourselves as "broken", "disabled", or "handicapped".
As Dr. Bill Vicars of LifePrint puts it "So we renounce the label of disability and shun patronizing attempts to categorize us as having a "challenge." Not because we don't have a challenge, (we do), but rather because it is psychologically much more comfortable to avoid thinking about it and focus on other things. We go about our lives engaged in the process of "living" and are then confronted by certain Hearing people feel the inexplicable, irrational need to "help" us come to terms with and/or "realize" or "admit" that we have a "problem.""
Now, let's go to the phenomenons happening:
"Not Deaf Enough"
This has been happening for generations, where one feels "too deaf for the hearing world, not deaf enough for the Deaf world". Where one may have been mainstreamed, grew up orally (speaking not signing), late-deafened, deaf but don't sign, have a cochlear implant or whatever reason the Deaf "elitists" feel. (My word choice). These "outsiders" are then rejected, black-listed, or even attacked.
My personal opinion? It's bullshit! Everyone with a strong hearing loss struggle to communicate and participate in the outside "hearing" world. We face the same rejection, oppression and patronizing attitudes from ignorant people. We all face been left out and isolation in a busy crowd at one time or another.
New Labeling - DDBDDHH
Recently there's a "trend" that's going around stating that the word "Deaf" is not inclusive enough and "we" should be calling ourselves DDBDDHH. Which stands for Deaf, DeafBlind, Deaf Disabled, Hard of Hearing. Here's a captioned video explaining more:
First of all, that's a lot to memorize and fingerspell (and say). Look, I call myself DeafBlind because it's my identity as well as being a lot easier than saying "Deaf and legally blind", or to be more PC "I have a combined hearing loss and am visually challenged". Sheesh! Now you want me to say "I am DDBDDHH and have vision loss"? No. Just No.
Think the National Association of the Deaf (NAD) will now have to spend more on bigger business cards and letterheads to change it to National Association of the Deaf, DeafBlind, Deaf Disabled, and Hard of Hearing.
Let's stick with Deaf.
Cherish Who YOU Are!
No matter where you are in your Deaf identity search - still "d"eaf, learning ASL, have a hearing aid or a C.I., or already deeply involved in the Deaf community - whatever, be PROUD of who you are!
Never apologize for who you are as a Deaf person and never apologize for where you are in life. You're responsible for yourself (and your family).
Ignore the naysayers and other crabs (remember crab theory?) and keep learning, keep evolving and stay happy and productive.
It's April 16th, and many parts of the North are still having Snow and Ice Storms and the South is just damn cold.
Annnnd it's Monday....
Hang in there, it'll all be over soon! Grab a coffee, kick back and think of all the things you have to be grateful for.
Snow seems minuscule now doesn't it?
Have a great week!
As a Deafblind person I've dealt with a lot of negative feedback throughout my life.
I'm sure a lot of people have experienced some at one time or another. Whether from a teacher or a boss, it's sometimes deflating to hear.
Here's a great post on how to deal with Negative feedback that was posted on the American Foundation for the Blind's website.
Have a great week y'all!
Received this in an email from my folks and want to share it.
If anyone knows who the original source is, please let me know so I can give proper credit.
Have a Great Week!
We all fall into a rut now and again. Whether it’s in our personal life, at work, in our relationships, or just an overall feeling of tiredness.
It’s not a physical tiredness that can be fixed with a good nap, but an overall mental and spiritual weariness.
Here are three ways to snap out of it:
1. Move on from your Regrets
We may be regretting something and that’s holding us back mentally, such as regretting not getting the job we wanted. We have a tendency to over-analyze past events especially when it’s a negative one. We want to create all kinds of alternative outcomes for it, but we fail to remember that it’s in the past.
We cannot change the past, but we can plan for the future. Instead of dwelling on “what did I do wrong”, focus on planning and improving for next time. “So, I didn’t get Job X that I really wanted, I’ll practice more on my interview skills for the next one”.
We cannot change the past, change our actions, fix our regrets, and such, but we can change the present and the future and that's where we should be focusing on and that is a quick way to snap out of a rut.
2. Know Your Comfort Zone
This quote is true, we do not truly gain new experiences, new understandings, and growth if we stay in our comfort zone. Staying “safe” in our zone is usually the real reason why people feel they’re in a rut.
Analyzing and understanding why you’re in that certain comfort zone is key to getting out of your mental rut. Admittedly this is probably the hardest step to overcome and you may not want to do it alone.
To help you work your way out of that comfort zone and work out what's holding you back may require a therapist or a psychologist. Learn the difference between the two and find local help.
Whether it’s a childhood event or something more recent, getting help stepping out of your boundaries is so freeing and opens the door to so many opportunities you didn’t want to even consider before.
3. Set Realistic Goals
Another easy way to get out of a rut is to set realistic goals. Sometimes we set goals so high that we just quit before we start and wallow in the same spot.
Here’s how to remedy that:
No matter the reason behind your feelings of being in a rut - you need to overcome it in order to move on with your life. Feeling lost and miserable is an awful place to be, I've been there, so if you feel that you're in too deep to even start climbing out - please seek help.
It's Monday and we all know those GIFs and Memes about hating Mondays.
I'll admit right now I'm staring at this screen trying to get motivated myself....
So let's dive into the week with these 5 quick "Pick Me Ups"
1. The K.I.S.S. Rule
Just remember to "Keep It Simple Stupid".
We often are unmotivated because we feel overwhelmed at our "To-Do" list. Break the list down into smaller chores and focus on those.
Instead of thinking "I gotta clean the whole damn house" - "I'll just do the dishwasher and counter-tops", and when those are done, "I'll sweep and take out the trash", and when that's done, do the next small task.
My hubby usually says "Do what's in front of you". Eventually it'll all get done.
2. Give Yourself Breaks
It doesn't matter if you're a busy stay-at-home Mom, a blue-collar employee, or a busy Executive - allow yourself break times through out the day.
Give yourself a moment between tasks to decompress, clear your mind, grab a snack and such. These little breaks does give you a mental reset. Ever worked on a crossword or similar project and struggle for a solution, walk away for a bit and when you return the "answer" comes just like that?
Whether it's a 15 minute break or a whole night - breaks help us reset and refocus.
3. Don't Skip Meals
Too often people skip breakfast and just grab a coffee on the way to work.
Then they wonder why they have no energy to work.
Wake up earlier and make yourself a proper breakfast (or time to go grab a big take-out one). Your brain needs energy to be able to work, so if you starve it - your work suffers.
Have smaller snacks throughout the day to keep that energy level up as well. Grab an apple, granola bar, or even a chocolate bar (Shhhh) in between "assignments".
4. Drink Plenty of Water
We habitually reach for the coffee when we feel sluggish (me too), but you should be reaching for water instead.
It's likely that energy drain and sluggishness is due to dehydration, so having a big glass or bottle of water will pick your energy up in about 15 minutes.
Taking a short break to slowly drink that bottle helps regain your focus as well.
5. Exercise or Stretch
Yeah, I groaned too when I read this, but trust me it does work.
I spend a lot of time working on my laptop throughout the day and I've discovered that just taking a short break to get up and just do a whole body stretch does wonders for my attention span after I return to the desk.
Take a walk around your building, your neighborhood, or anywhere you are for a good refreshing break from your routine.
So, I hope these pointers help get you feeling good and your week off to a good start!
Do you have any other energy boosting habits you can share with me?