How many of you that have a friend or relative with a disability and when you introduce them to other people it goes like:
"This is Steve, he's [insert disability]".
Right off the bat you let a stranger know the other's person's "faults". (as it feels to us).
This was posted on Facebook a while back by J. Sims:
"Disempowerment by disclosing something personal like about an individual's disability without consent is a thorny source of feeling under-privileged!"
It's that individual's sole right to disclose their disability or not. Many are pro-active in telling the general public what they need for accommodations and we have done fine before you and will continue to be fine after you.
When you do that, it automatically changes the mental perspective of the other person before they've known you. Is that fair really? For example, friends and family would introduce me and go "she's Deaf", I can physically see the facial changes to awkwardness and other expressions and then they're "How....are....you". If you left out that part, they'll just greet you like everyone else and if I missed something I just simply say "sorry, can you look at me when you talk please" and the conversation continues without batting an eyelash. See the difference?
If you or I don't directly point my deafness out, it will become obvious to them, the ask to repeat, the deaf accent, and so on.
Let's turn the tables a bit:
"This is Joe, he's incontinent"
"This is Sue, she has 15 parking tickets due"
"This is Don, he has 3 mistresses"
See how freaking uncomfortable (and no one's business) it is now?
So, stop disclosing things about us without our consent. I know you want to help us, but I promise you, it doesn't.
Any People with Disabilities (PWD) have suggestions for alternate ways around this? Let me know in comments.