We all fall into a rut now and again. Whether it’s in our personal life, at work, in our relationships, or just an overall feeling of tiredness.
It’s not a physical tiredness that can be fixed with a good nap, but an overall mental and spiritual weariness.
Here are three ways to snap out of it:
1. Move on from your Regrets
We may be regretting something and that’s holding us back mentally, such as regretting not getting the job we wanted. We have a tendency to over-analyze past events especially when it’s a negative one. We want to create all kinds of alternative outcomes for it, but we fail to remember that it’s in the past.
We cannot change the past, but we can plan for the future. Instead of dwelling on “what did I do wrong”, focus on planning and improving for next time. “So, I didn’t get Job X that I really wanted, I’ll practice more on my interview skills for the next one”.
We cannot change the past, change our actions, fix our regrets, and such, but we can change the present and the future and that's where we should be focusing on and that is a quick way to snap out of a rut.
2. Know Your Comfort Zone
This quote is true, we do not truly gain new experiences, new understandings, and growth if we stay in our comfort zone. Staying “safe” in our zone is usually the real reason why people feel they’re in a rut.
Analyzing and understanding why you’re in that certain comfort zone is key to getting out of your mental rut. Admittedly this is probably the hardest step to overcome and you may not want to do it alone.
To help you work your way out of that comfort zone and work out what's holding you back may require a therapist or a psychologist. Learn the difference between the two and find local help.
Whether it’s a childhood event or something more recent, getting help stepping out of your boundaries is so freeing and opens the door to so many opportunities you didn’t want to even consider before.
3. Set Realistic Goals
Another easy way to get out of a rut is to set realistic goals. Sometimes we set goals so high that we just quit before we start and wallow in the same spot.
Here’s how to remedy that:
No matter the reason behind your feelings of being in a rut - you need to overcome it in order to move on with your life. Feeling lost and miserable is an awful place to be, I've been there, so if you feel that you're in too deep to even start climbing out - please seek help.