Wherever you're living, you're probably tired of Winter.
Whether you're getting lots of snow, or never-ending rain (I'm getting both here in Oklahoma), you can start feeling "Blah". Here are five ways to snap out of it!
1. Clean your place.
Since we're "stuck" indoors during the winter, part of our Blahs & Blues is a messy, or cluttered and unorganized place. So, organize your place, find a spot for everything and anything you don't want - throw away (or put in a box for a Spring Yard Sale).
Having a better view of your surroundings can help perk things up and the exercise in doing all this is a boon to your health too.
2. Learn something new
Part of the reasoning of getting "worn out' in the winter months is not just being physically sedentary but mentally as well.
So, take this opportunity to learn something new! A new Language, a new Hobby, maybe a new skill for work, or even a new career?
You can learn online, at the library, local Community College, and other sources. So, exercise your brain and learn something new.
3. Spoil yourself
Now's the time to give yourself permission to spoil yourself.
Get a manicure, pedicure, massage....
Go out for a meal you really enjoy, go on a shopping trip, go away for the weekend....
Anything you've denied yourself for a long while because of finances, been too busy, "life got in the way", whatever - GO!
One of the best ways to cheer yourself up is by helping others.
Volunteer at a favorite organization or step out of your comfort zone and try a new area to venture helping out.
One - you're out of the house and not in a "usual" spot (work, store, etc),
Two - helping others out makes us feel better and "forget our own problems".
Three - you're socializing with new people - another boon to your mental and emotional health.
5. Make plans
Write down plans you'd like to do when the weather gets warmer.
Planning for a future event actually can help you mentally as now you have something to look forward to and can save up, plan some more, and get excited!
I hope these ideas help getting rid of your winter blues. Here's a workbook to check out!
We all fall into a rut now and again. Whether it’s in our personal life, at work, in our relationships, or just an overall feeling of tiredness.
It’s not a physical tiredness that can be fixed with a good nap, but an overall mental and spiritual weariness.
Here are three ways to snap out of it:
1. Move on from your Regrets
We may be regretting something and that’s holding us back mentally, such as regretting not getting the job we wanted. We have a tendency to over-analyze past events especially when it’s a negative one. We want to create all kinds of alternative outcomes for it, but we fail to remember that it’s in the past.
We cannot change the past, but we can plan for the future. Instead of dwelling on “what did I do wrong”, focus on planning and improving for next time. “So, I didn’t get Job X that I really wanted, I’ll practice more on my interview skills for the next one”.
We cannot change the past, change our actions, fix our regrets, and such, but we can change the present and the future and that's where we should be focusing on and that is a quick way to snap out of a rut.
2. Know Your Comfort Zone
This quote is true, we do not truly gain new experiences, new understandings, and growth if we stay in our comfort zone. Staying “safe” in our zone is usually the real reason why people feel they’re in a rut.
Analyzing and understanding why you’re in that certain comfort zone is key to getting out of your mental rut. Admittedly this is probably the hardest step to overcome and you may not want to do it alone.
Whether it’s a childhood event or something more recent, getting help stepping out of your boundaries is so freeing and opens the door to so many opportunities you didn’t want to even consider before.
3. Set Realistic Goals
Another easy way to get out of a rut is to set realistic goals. Sometimes we set goals so high that we just quit before we start and wallow in the same spot.
Here’s how to remedy that:
No matter the reason behind your feelings of being in a rut - you need to overcome it in order to move on with your life. Feeling lost and miserable is an awful place to be, I've been there, so if you feel that you're in too deep to even start climbing out - please seek help.
The great majority of parents strive for their children to grow up as happy, healthy, productive members of society.
In order to meet these goals, we as parents are told that everything must be sacrificed. If we don’t give it all that we have there is a chance that are kids will never move out of our basement, will end up unemployment, and we will turn the blame on ourselves.
This is what we at InnerParents refer to as the “parenting myth”. This myth is completely ruining the beautifully, messy, and unique experience parenting really is.
When parents strive for an impossible level of perfection, their energy and resources a drained and their children deprived of vital growing experiences.
The Myth of the "Perfect Parent"
Perfect parenting expectations begin with a natural, drug-free birth, and stigmatisms surrounding breast-feeding too little, too long, or not at all. That we must make our own baby food and store everything in BPA containers.
The truth is, you’ll go crazy trying to keep up with all of the things that “make” you a perfect parent in the eyes of society. And even if you do manage to achieve all of these things you’ll burn yourself out and miss out on the one thing that your child really needs – you.
Renowned psychoanalyst and pediatrician Donald Winnicott believed that there was a huge contrast in real parenting and these high-achieving ideals. Perfect parenting isn’t just unattainable - it isn’t desirable either. As children grow, he discovered that parents that let their child forge ahead independently were a lot better off than those that tried to meet every one of their child’s desires and wants.
Getting Out of Your Own Way
In fact, the single thing that stands in the way of most parents is striving for an impossible level of perfection. Attempting to attend to your child’s every want and need causes them miss out on a valuable life lesson: life is full of struggles and disappointments. Hiding this fact from your child doesn’t help them learn the necessary skills to cope with the trials of life.
In fact, Winnicott believes that the best way to teach your child these skills is by simply being yourself.
So what can you do to be the “good enough” parent?
The truth is, there is no one right way to parent. All you can do is be yourself and show your child the love that they deserve.
If you enjoyed this article, please like and share! Don’t forget to share your experience and the one thing you believe stands in the way of being a parent.
It's Monday and we all know those GIFs and Memes about hating Mondays.
I'll admit right now I'm staring at this screen trying to get motivated myself....
So let's dive into the week with these 5 quick "Pick Me Ups"
1. The K.I.S.S. Rule
Just remember to "Keep It Simple Stupid".
We often are unmotivated because we feel overwhelmed at our "To-Do" list. Break the list down into smaller chores and focus on those.
Instead of thinking "I gotta clean the whole damn house" - "I'll just do the dishwasher and counter-tops", and when those are done, "I'll sweep and take out the trash", and when that's done, do the next small task.
My hubby usually says "Do what's in front of you". Eventually it'll all get done.
2. Give Yourself Breaks
It doesn't matter if you're a busy stay-at-home Mom, a blue-collar employee, or a busy Executive - allow yourself break times through out the day.
Give yourself a moment between tasks to decompress, clear your mind, grab a snack and such. These little breaks does give you a mental reset. Ever worked on a crossword or similar project and struggle for a solution, walk away for a bit and when you return the "answer" comes just like that?
Whether it's a 15 minute break or a whole night - breaks help us reset and refocus.
3. Don't Skip Meals
Too often people skip breakfast and just grab a coffee on the way to work.
Then they wonder why they have no energy to work.
Wake up earlier and make yourself a proper breakfast (or time to go grab a big take-out one). Your brain needs energy to be able to work, so if you starve it - your work suffers.
Have smaller snacks throughout the day to keep that energy level up as well. Grab an apple, granola bar, or even a chocolate bar (Shhhh) in between "assignments".
4. Drink Plenty of Water
We habitually reach for the coffee when we feel sluggish (me too), but you should be reaching for water instead.
It's likely that energy drain and sluggishness is due to dehydration, so having a big glass or bottle of water will pick your energy up in about 15 minutes.
Taking a short break to slowly drink that bottle helps regain your focus as well.
5. Exercise or Stretch
Yeah, I groaned too when I read this, but trust me it does work.
I spend a lot of time working on my laptop throughout the day and I've discovered that just taking a short break to get up and just do a whole body stretch does wonders for my attention span after I return to the desk.
Take a walk around your building, your neighborhood, or anywhere you are for a good refreshing break from your routine.
So, I hope these pointers help get you feeling good and your week off to a good start!
Do you have any other energy boosting habits you can share with me?
Are you disappointed with yourself because of multiple failures that you have experienced? If yes then you are not alone.
Failure is part of learning and can help you become a better person. However, your overall attitude towards life will determine the quality of life that you will live.
There are some small changes that you can make to really help improve the overall quality of your life.
In this article, we are going to educate you on 7 ways to improve the quality of your life.
1. Eat breakfast.
Most people especially those who want to lose weight usually think that skipping breakfast will achieve that goal quickly, but that is usually not the case. There are many benefits of eating breakfast.
Eating breakfast will give you the energy and endurance that you need to engage in daily activities. It also help improves your concentration and performance at work or school. In addition, studies have shown that people who eat breakfast have lower risk of suffering from health complications and are generally happier than those who skip breakfast.
2. Set goals.
Setting goals not only provide direction but it also helps make better decisions. Also setting goals enables you to have total control over your future and act as a motivation tool.
For instance, if your fitness goals are; to lose weight and attain a lean, sexy body, those goals will guide you and will help you remain focused.
3. Do what makes you happy.
There is nothing more fulfilling in life than being happy. That is why it is very important to do things that makes you happy.
Studies have shown that people are more productive when they do things that makes them happy. Studies have also shown that people who choose to do things that makes them happy are healthier compared to those who choose to pursue things that they don’t really like.
If you are passionate about certain sports, then don’t shy away from pursuing it because it will improve your quality of life.
4. Exercise daily.
Doing exercises help improve your fitness level as well as your overall body health. Performing daily exercises will makes you feel better about yourself. It also helps you learn about your abilities, a factor that can help you appreciate yourself better.
If you want to improve the quality of your life then you must be able to do things that you love and that can only happen if you have an excellent fitness level.
When you smile, neurotransmitter known as endorphins are released. They're usually triggered by the movements of your face muscles which are interpreted by the brain which in turn releases this important chemical.
Endorphin is a crucial chemical responsible for making you happy as well as helps lower your stress level and enables you to live a happier and more fulfilling life. Studies have also shown that laughing helps to stretch your body muscles and extends the lung as well as stimulate homeostasis. A good laugh helps release negative emotions and can helps to draw people closer together.
6. Learn something new.
Learning something new helps you become a better person. Knowledge is power. By learning something new in your life, you will not only be able to handle different challenges that life throws at you, but you will also be able to make informed decisions. Step out of your comfort zone and start learning something new that you know nothing about. There are many things to learn that can improve the quality of your life and of those around you. Identify things that you find interesting and take the initiative to learn it.
7. Plan your day.
By planning your day properly, you'll know what you need to prioritize and what's not important. As a result, you will be able to channel your time and energy on things that matter the most.
Planning your day enables you to stay focused and organized, a factor that will make you happy too.
It's my last contribution to Self-Improvement Month. I hope y'all enjoyed it and plan to use some of it to improve your own life.
I'm just going to leave this infograph here as a reminder for y'all.