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This series will run throughout the month of March!
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We all fall into a rut now and again. Whether it’s in our personal life, at work, in our relationships, or just an overall feeling of tiredness.
It’s not a physical tiredness that can be fixed with a good nap, but an overall mental and spiritual weariness.
Here are three ways to snap out of it:
1. Move on from your Regrets
We may be regretting something and that’s holding us back mentally, such as regretting not getting the job we wanted. We have a tendency to over-analyze past events especially when it’s a negative one. We want to create all kinds of alternative outcomes for it, but we fail to remember that it’s in the past.
We cannot change the past, but we can plan for the future. Instead of dwelling on “what did I do wrong”, focus on planning and improving for next time. “So, I didn’t get Job X that I really wanted, I’ll practice more on my interview skills for the next one”.
We cannot change the past, change our actions, fix our regrets, and such, but we can change the present and the future and that's where we should be focusing on and that is a quick way to snap out of a rut.
2. Know Your Comfort Zone
This quote is true, we do not truly gain new experiences, new understandings, and growth if we stay in our comfort zone. Staying “safe” in our zone is usually the real reason why people feel they’re in a rut.
Analyzing and understanding why you’re in that certain comfort zone is key to getting out of your mental rut. Admittedly this is probably the hardest step to overcome and you may not want to do it alone.
Whether it’s a childhood event or something more recent, getting help stepping out of your boundaries is so freeing and opens the door to so many opportunities you didn’t want to even consider before.
3. Set Realistic Goals
Another easy way to get out of a rut is to set realistic goals. Sometimes we set goals so high that we just quit before we start and wallow in the same spot.
Here’s how to remedy that:
No matter the reason behind your feelings of being in a rut - you need to overcome it in order to move on with your life. Feeling lost and miserable is an awful place to be, I've been there, so if you feel that you're in too deep to even start climbing out - please seek help.
The great majority of parents strive for their children to grow up as happy, healthy, productive members of society.
In order to meet these goals, we as parents are told that everything must be sacrificed. If we don’t give it all that we have there is a chance that are kids will never move out of our basement, will end up unemployment, and we will turn the blame on ourselves.
This is what we at InnerParents refer to as the “parenting myth”. This myth is completely ruining the beautifully, messy, and unique experience parenting really is.
When parents strive for an impossible level of perfection, their energy and resources a drained and their children deprived of vital growing experiences.
The Myth of the "Perfect Parent"
Perfect parenting expectations begin with a natural, drug-free birth, and stigmatisms surrounding breast-feeding too little, too long, or not at all. That we must make our own baby food and store everything in BPA containers.
The truth is, you’ll go crazy trying to keep up with all of the things that “make” you a perfect parent in the eyes of society. And even if you do manage to achieve all of these things you’ll burn yourself out and miss out on the one thing that your child really needs – you.
Renowned psychoanalyst and pediatrician Donald Winnicott believed that there was a huge contrast in real parenting and these high-achieving ideals. Perfect parenting isn’t just unattainable - it isn’t desirable either. As children grow, he discovered that parents that let their child forge ahead independently were a lot better off than those that tried to meet every one of their child’s desires and wants.
Getting Out of Your Own Way
In fact, the single thing that stands in the way of most parents is striving for an impossible level of perfection. Attempting to attend to your child’s every want and need causes them miss out on a valuable life lesson: life is full of struggles and disappointments. Hiding this fact from your child doesn’t help them learn the necessary skills to cope with the trials of life.
In fact, Winnicott believes that the best way to teach your child these skills is by simply being yourself.
So what can you do to be the “good enough” parent?
The truth is, there is no one right way to parent. All you can do is be yourself and show your child the love that they deserve.
If you enjoyed this article, please like and share! Don’t forget to share your experience and the one thing you believe stands in the way of being a parent.
Having somebody you love experience memory loss and is now dependent on you can turn your life around and it has an impact on the whole family.
Providing them with support and understanding on itself won’t be enough, it is essential to know how to help them. They need to learn how to cope themselves and regain some independence and here are some tips on how to achieve that.
When you hear that somebody you care for has dementia, you will probably be frightened at first. But then you’ll have to deal with the problem.
To do this, you have to know as much as you can about the illness in question. You have to be informed, so visit a doctor who can answer any question you may have. There are support groups you can join, where you can learn from other people’s experiences and get some practical advice on what to do and how to behave. Also, there are many websites you can visit which are dedicated to the issue.
Stick to a Routine
Organizing your life will be much easier if you make a good schedule and follow it. Both you and your loved one will benefit from developing a routine, since it will make it less stressful to adjust to the new situation.
Also, it could help you with your caregiving duties and make it less likely to forget anything important.
You should know that you aren’t perfect and can’t do everything on your own. It’s perfectly acceptable and normal to ask for help from other family members, friends and neighbors. You won’t be able to spend every moment of your time caring for the person with dementia, so you will sometimes need other people to take over some of your responsibilities or all of them when you need a break.
Sometimes you’ll feel overwhelmed and simply need somebody who understands you. This is where the support groups could be helpful. Also, contact social services to find out if there are resources available to you. Perhaps you can get counseling or maybe even professional in home care to take over for you once in a while.
You will sometimes lose your nerve and get frustrated if your loved one can’t remember something or if they have problems communicating, but don’t get upset or angry about it.
They don’t do it on purpose, it’s the illness. Talk to them in a calm voice and with a positive attitude. Even if they don’t know what you are talking about, they will understand your body language. Always talk to them with respect and affection, and don’t argue with them.
Use short and clear sentences and simple words, and keep your tone low, calm and reassuring. You can even joke, but never at their expense.
Manage the Medicine
Medical treatments are an essential part of your loved one’s everyday life. It’s your responsibility to keep track of all the doctor appointments or any medication they should receive. You have to make sure they don’t get ill or get any condition which can complicate the one they already have.
Keep them in good shape, take them outside and try to keep them on their feet as often as you can, or hire home care to keep your loved one in as good shape as possible.
Take care of Yourself
If you want to be a good caregiver, you need to feel good first. Don’t get too caught up in your duties to forget self-care. Eat regularly and keep your diet balanced, exercise a few times a week and visit your doctor as often as necessary to remain healthy.
Don’t feel guilty if you need some time for yourself. You are more than a caregiver, you are a person with their own needs and feelings and you need to see to them.
When your loved ones get ill and dementia takes over, there’s not much you can do about the illness itself, but you can make life more bearable for the person you care about. Nurse them with understanding and affection they deserve and never let the illness make you forget who that person was before dementia and all the good things they did for you and with you.
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Taking on the immense challenge of homeschooling is not to be taken lightly, it will take a level of dedication and commitment rivaled only by the vows we took with our spouse.
However, if we’re certain we need to do this, then there are a couple of options out there that will help us achieve the level of excellence we’ll ask of our young one(s).
The trick here is to make the most out of everything we can afford to alter in order to stimulate learning in all fields, free of distractions like the TV, pets, the PC etc.
Make a plan
When we’re set on the notion of homeschooling, we need to take a step back and figure things out. If we intend to essentially take the place of every single teacher, we need to be prepared…or at least seem prepared in front of our child.
Take time to research all the courses you want to teach and buy the necessary materials. After you’ve done that, it’s time to hunker down and create a course plan.
Every day of every week – you need to know what you’ll be doing and what they need to get out of it. Difficult? Maybe. Necessary? Absolutely.
Set up a supply area
Simply put, the coming months will be nothing short of excruciating until both you and your child get the hang of this homeschooling thing and all the different ways your child can benefit from it.
The least you can do is alleviate the pressure a bit by buying school supplies in bulk and storing them away. This copious amount of, essentially, office supplies will need to be housed somewhere, so consider cleaning out a closet to make room for all the stuff you’ll need.
This will eliminate the need to go to the store during lessons with an already tight schedule as you’re juggling your child’s education and the rest of your obligations during the day.
Keep it functional
With so much stuff to take care of and things to keep in check, it can be pretty easy to fall into the trap of throwing things around in hopes of cleaning it up later. Avoid this way of thinking at all costs. The whole idea of homeschooling is to give your child a quality education from home – how are you supposed to manage that if you can’t find your supplies, your pen, his books?
Make sure everything is labelled and has a designated place, just like in public schools. Above else, make these rules crystal clear to the little one so you won’t have to go on scavenger hunts each time little Timmy needs to read from his English book.
Technology is your friend
Ah, the wonders of the information age. If you own a tablet or anything that is remotely movable, you’re in luck. Using a laptop or a tablet for books and any other need you might have will minimize the space your teaching will take up and will also have the added benefit of your child working in a familiar digital environment.
The only downside of this is that the very same laptop and tablet will still have all the games and “fun” things on it, so maintaining focus for the entirety of the class might prove a tad difficult.
Go outside once in a while
One crucial thing to remember is that kids still need PE. Take them out for a ride on their bike, go for walks in the woods, whatever floats their boat essentially. They need some physical activity in the day to spend their energy and get rid of the feeling of being bolted down in a chair for hours and hours (like in school).
A good middle ground for this would be to organize classes outside, this doesn’t need to be anything fancy, it can be just a simple lesson in the backyard. Spending the day outside and learning will come as a welcome change of pace and will more than likely revitalize their willingness to learn.
Clear out unused space
Ah, now comes the hard part – clearing out a room. Make no mistake, this is absolutely necessary to do and will greatly affect your child’s ability to absorb the knowledge he’s supposed to.
When you find a nice room you can make into a temporary classroom, throw everything out. Jokes aside, if you’re not able to move your furniture elsewhere within the house, there are plenty of super easy storage options out there.
This will keep everything safe and sound and let you focus on your child’s future.
Now that you’ve taken care of everything around the house and made a plan so you know what you’ll be doing and when, there’s only the small issue of getting our hands dirty and getting to teaching.
Teaching truly is one of the noblest professions and the joy experienced when passing on knowledge to young ones cannot be compared to anything else.
That said, dealing with children unwilling to learn is a whole other ballgame we’ll let you find out for yourselves, good luck!
Home safety is usually a concern for most people, but it can be more worrisome for those with hearing loss – especially for those who just recently lost it. So how do people with hearing loss protect themselves and their belongings? They can get an alarm system and have a few modifications added.
So, here’s my list of home alarm systems for people with hearing loss and how they can feel safe at home.
Invest in a Monitoring Service
There are a variety of home monitoring services with different types of packages to choose from. Some are self-installed while others are installed by a professional. They’re available for homes, rentals, and businesses.
Some of these services offer notifications by cell phone, which is great as you can have your cell phone by your bed with notifications set to flash (or vibrate) to alert you when the alarm goes off
Visual Alert Systems
Getting a visual alert system for all your home needs is an excellent idea. A visual alert system is a system that alerts you by setting up listening receivers that flash a lamp or strobe light plugged into them. They also come with a bedshaker to place under a pillow or between the mattress to shake you awake for a noise alert.
There are alerts for the alarm clock, doorbell, smoke detector, baby crying, and any other noise you want to be notified for. A noise receiver can be set up next to your alarm system to “listen” to the alarm going off.
Install Louder Alarms
If you don’t have a visual alert system or hear “fine” during the day with your hearing aid or cochlear implant, you do need to consider night time when you take your devices off. You can find alarm systems, smoke detectors, phones, and doorbells with extra loud ringers.
Be sure to find one that works in your hearing frequency. If you have a high pitch hearing loss you’ll need to find an alarm with a lower bass frequency to be able to hear it.
Install Motion Detector Lights
Installing motion detector lights in your front and back yard is a great deterrent from break-ins. They’re also great for added safety for walking to and from the car at night time.
Some alarm systems come with motion detectors as well and can alert you to movement in the house. Even though these are not attached to lights per say, you’ll know if someone’s in your place.
I personally have a motion detector light in my front hall entryway. It’s pretty dark in there during the daytime as well. It’s a motion detector for the light socket. It comes on whenever someone comes in or needs to go out. An added bonus is that since I don’t hear the door open and close, I can spot the light come on and go check who’s here.
Get the Neighbors to Help
These days many people are so busy that they don’t even know who their neighbors are. Go and make friends with a few of them, offer to help them out if they need anything (mowing, errands, and such).
In return, they can help keep an eye on your place by letting you know of strange visitors or noises. They can also be a contact person for the alarm service to contact too.
Get a Pet
A cheap (and cuddly) alternative is to get a dog or a cat. Allow the pet to share your bed. In the event of strange noises, a break-in, or anything, you’ll feel your pet barking, moving around, or even bolting off the bed. Then you’ll know something is wrong and go investigate.